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For the past 3 months, I have been dealing with something privately. It's nothing serious, but it is affecting my life in ways I never thought it would.

To Add or Not to Add

Three months ago, I logged into Facebook and saw that I had a new friend request. Excited, I clicked to see who it was and discovered it was a girl I had sort of known back in high school (Note: I went to a Catholic High School in Queens, NY). I remember this girl distinctly; junior year was the year we had to take the American History Regents exam and one of the Long-Essays asked us to write about an event that tested America's resolve. She wrote about the War on AIDS. Needless to say, she had to take the Regents again in August.
She was the stereotypical guidette from Queens with crunchy hair who smoked light cigarettes when she was 16 and drank Coors Light after prom.


This is a person I don't really want to get to know any more than I already do, so I denied her Facebook friend request. I usually live by the rule "If I know you in real life, I know you on Facebook," but this was pushing it a little--we never really spoke in high school unless it was when she wanted to cheat off of me in Chemistry and I doubt we would engage in any deep conversations now that we we're digital friends.

Two weeks later I got another friend request. From the same girl. Undeterred, I ignored it again.

One month ago, she adds me again. Third time's the charm? Ignored.
The next day, added again. Her request has been sitting, untouched, in my Facebook Request pages.

"What's the next move?" I ask myself. I figure I'll send her a little message asking, "Why do you want to be my friend so bad?" That sentence has now plagued my psyche. What kind of answer would say to me, "Hey, I should really add this person."? Why would anyone want to be friends with me?

"Oh, I know we didn't know each other in high school but I always wanted to get to know you better, so I figured this was a start." Then I decided to look at her other Facebook friends. She has about 300 and all of them, I kid you not, are kids from my high school class. Not a single other friend outside of that circle. So either she's nostalgic or a completest. While understandable, this will not do.

So, she will wait in Facebook Pergatory, also known as "Awaiting friend confirmation."